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    The truth about relativity

    During 1960s, one of the mantras of the counterculture was to “never trust anyone over 30.” Civil rights and Berkeley free speech activist Jack Weinberger is widely credited with making that statement. To those of us old enough to remember the days of free love, we also recall turning on, tuning in and dropping out spoken by one of the day’s best known gurus, Timothy Leary. Oh my. To many, our 30s rapidly passed us by with no noticeable trepidation. In many instances, we have not only become our parents, we are rapidly turning into our grandparents.

    Today is my father’s 80th birthday. I will be spending the rest of the day with family and only take an occasional look at my computer, if I take it with me.

    Early last night, I spoke to my 91-year-old Uncle David, and to put things in a relative perspective, he said, “Gosh… your father’s going to be 80 tomorrow? Oh, I long for he day I could be 80 again.”

    You see, my uncle’s mind is as sharp as it was a half-century ago, but his body is catching up with him. To each and every one of us we understand our own relativity, how it impacts our own lives each day and how much it changes with passing time. We are what we make of ourselves.

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    Dave, hope you enjoy your day. My Mom is 92 soon to be 93 and is in excellent heath and mental too--sharp as a tack. She recently moved near me here in Texas from California and lives with my twin sister (we are 59 soon to be 60). It's a blessing to have family near. Reading here EVERY day.

    October 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermartha

    Best wishes to your Dad. I can relate to your post ( timothy leary etc) Those were the good old days. We do become our parents. They took care of us and now it is our turn to take care of them.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterMarsha from NY

    Dave, I hope you have a wonderful day with your dad and family. Age is just a number. Keeping the mind active and maintaining a good sense of humor is one secret to longevity. Life is what you make it. Some people get the impression that all elderly people are lonely and lead boring lives. My days are not long enough and, other than a few ouches from aching joints, I hope to make each day special. There is so much knowledge out there and we all can continue to learn but only if we have the incentive to do so. I truly admire your uncle Kyle. BTW, Dave, you are still just a baby to all of us old codgers. Maybe your uncle Kyle would think of me as a baby. LOL

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterSnoopySleuth

    Dave, happy birthday to your dad! Snoopy is right about age being just a number. My parents are in their 80's and I don't mind being there to help them at all. For all they have done for us kids, it is the least we can do. Have a great time with your dad and your family.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterMary Jo

    Many happy returns to your father Dave....Hi Snoops Marsha Mary Jo Time is relative the older we get the faster it passes....

    October 27, 2010 | Registered Commenterecossie possie

    A Happy Birthday Sing-a-Long, for Dave's Dad, All!

    BTW, for anyone interested, there's going to be a presser on Zahra Baker case in a minute- 4:30- can't do link- sorry.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterKaren C.

    Happy Birthday, Dad Knechel!

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterSherry

    Happy Birthday to your Dad and have a wonderful day celebrating. Your Dad is still young - Mother died at 100 years old and was walking a mountain trail 3 days before she died. You just keep enjoying what day brings.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterNika1

    This is off topic, but I think people would like ot know this.

    Casey Attorney: Investigative Money 'Used Up'

    Defense Asking For 300 More Hours At Cost Of $12,000

    POSTED: 3:33 pm EDT October 27, 2010
    UPDATED: 4:38 pm EDT October 27, 2010

    ORANGE COUNTY, Fla. -- One of Casey Anthony's attorneys gave more insight on Wednesday into a request from the defense team asking for more funding for investigative hours.

    This week, defense attorneys filed a motion asking Judge Belvin Perry to double the amount of investigative hours permitted for review of new evidence. The request would total up to $12,000.

    In May, Perry set a cap of 300 hours for in-state investigators and 100 hours for out-of-state investigators. The new request asks for an additional 300 hours.

    On Wednesday, Anthony defense attorney Cheney Mason told WESH 2 News the hours that were originally approved have already been used.

    "Investigators have used (them) up. We just need more, that's all," Mason said.

    Mason and other attorneys deposed lead investigator Yuri Melich on Wednesday.

    Anthony was declared indigent in March. A state agency now administers funds that are used for her defense.

    A case status hearing will be held on Friday afternoon. Perry is expected to address several money-related issues at the hearing. Court officials said Anthony will be present at the status hearing for the first time in months. will stream Friday's status hearing live.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterMary Jo

    You are so bllessed to be able to celebrate your Dad's 80 th. birthday with him. I bet he could tell some very interesting stories too. Happy Birthday Mr. Kneckle!!!! Have a great day.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered Commentermargaret

    Happy Birthday Mr. Knechel!!!!! Have a great day.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered Commentermargaret

    Happy B-day to your father! Enjoy time with your family Dave!

    October 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBarbara

    Happy Birthday to your father, Dave!
    I wanted to share with you my favorite poem. After reading your article, I thought it might be appropriate.

    The Dash
    By Linda Ellis

    I read of a man who stood to speak the funeral of a friend.
    He referred to the dates on her tombstone
    from the the end.

    He noted that first came her date of birth
    and spoke the following date with tears,
    but he said what mattered most of all
    was the “dash” between those years. (1934 -1998)

    For that dash represents all the time
    that she spent alive on earth...
    and now only those who loved her
    know what that little line is worth.

    For it matters not, how much we own;
    the cars...the house...the cash,
    what matters is how we live and love
    and how we spend our “dash”.

    So think about this long and hard...
    are there things you'd like to change?
    For you never know how much time is left,
    that can still be rearranged.

    If we could just slow down enough
    to consider what's true and real,
    and always try to understand
    the way other people feel.

    And be less quick to anger,
    and show appreciation more
    and love the people in our lives
    like we've never loved before.

    If we treat each other with respect,
    and more often wear a smile...
    remembering that this special “dash”
    might only last a little while.

    So, when your eulogy's being read
    with your life's actions to rehash...
    would you be proud of the things they say
    about how you spent your “dash”?

    October 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterkimpossible

    To everyone, thank you very, very much. I will pass on your wishes in the morning. That's so kind of you all, and kimpossible? I love that poem. It is so appropriate for every single one of us.

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Happy Happy Birthday to Dave's Dad and hope you had a wonderful day!

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterJanet

    Dave - I hope you enjoyed a wonderful day with your dad. When it comes down to it, what in this world is more important than family? I'm glad you took time away from the blog to spend a very important day with yours. ~ Vicky

    October 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterSempre Invictus

    Thank you again for the extra nice comments for my father. I have passed on all your birthday wishes and it helped make his birthday a very special day.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Can't wait for tomorrow.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterKaren C.

    I'll be there, Lord willing and the creek don't rise.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    kimpossible, I loved your poem.

    Dave, I am anxious for tomorrow's hearing too. I know when you are there you will come back and report not only what happened, but give us all the other stuff that we aren't able to see from the camera. You give us your perspective and make us seem like we are right there with you. That is what I love about your writing.

    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMary Jo

    Papa Knechel,

    Have yourself a wonderful birthday, and so many more to come! God bless you and yours, always.


    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterFeathers



    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterFeathers

    Interesting, Feathers. Thanks for the link.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    This is so appropriate for me today. I was just talking to my sister about being a ggreat aunt to her ggrandchildren! Time flies and you do so much even when you do so little. Every year spent on the earth is precious, and when we're gone there will be people like me who love doing genealogy to look you up and see who you were, where you lived and how you lived!

    I loved the poem Kim! And give your father a big hug Dave and tell him you love him. Mine passed away when I was only 1 so every day you have with him is more precious than you know.

    Btw, I never tuned in, turned on or dropped out. I always had this fear of being the one in 10 million that would get caught doing it!

    October 28, 2010 | Registered Commenterconniefl

    Have a wonderful day Dave. I hope your Dad has a great birthday. 80 is a milestone. I wish him good health and many more years with his family.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterPeggy222

    Thanks. He had a very nice birthday, and that poem was so nice.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    And to think, Dave, that I have so often depended upon the ROR provide accurate information. NOT anymore!

    Hi, everyone!

    Connie, so sorry to learn about your father.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterFeathers

    "One more sleep" as the kids say, then we'll be glued to the hearing! It should certainly be interesting.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterFeathers

    Kim, absolutely heart warming.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterFeathers

    ROR is not very reliable, obviously, and he doesn't care who writes what. Oh well, he's obviously into sleaze.

    October 28, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    hi dave .. sorry i am late with birthday wishes for ur dad... hope he enjoys many many more .. best wishes from ireland to daves dad :))))))

    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered Commentercinta

    Hi Dave,
    First of all, I hope you had a great time with your father; congratulations to him on this birthday, and to you on being able to enjoy it with him.

    I'm looking forward to more of your articles, and with the upcoming hearing on the Casey Anthony case I will sure be checking back!

    Congrats again.

    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKay

    I'm glad you had a great visit with your family. I bet your dad is so proud of you.
    I'm excited to see what goes on in court tomorrow and can't wait to read your next article and all the comments from fellow bloggers.
    I'm happy the poem was appreciated, I try to read it every morning for inspiration and guidance. Have a wonderful evening.everyone.

    October 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKimpossible

    Insert "the" before the 1960s

    30s should be 30's

    I long for he day should be long for the day

    You started strong but finished weak. I give this a C+

    Happy Birthday to Dave's Dad!

    LOL, Hello moderation forever.

    October 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKardan

    Cinta - No problem. At his age, he probably forgot Wednesday was his birthday... JUST KIDDING! I will pass your message on to him. Thank you.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Hi, Kay - Yes, it was a very nice day. We went to my sister's house on the east coast.

    I am looking forward to today's hearing, too, so I can write about it. Thank you very much.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Hi, Kimpossible - I'm a little late getting back to last night's comments, but I'm here.

    Trust me, I'm excited to see what all comes down in the courtroom today, too, and then writing about it. This one should be a doozie.

    Yes, your poem was very lovely and it was appreciated. Thank you for that, and thank you for reading my blog and all the great comments.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Kardan - The use of an apostrophe is argued all the time, but no, gramatically, I did not need to use one. An apostrophe generally signifies ownership, except in it's for it is, and 30 with nothing more than an "s" indicates plural. When I wrote 30s, I meant all of those years, from 30 - 39, not that the 30s owned me. Get it?

    Thanks for the birthday wish for my father.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    Did anyone see this:

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterJanet

    Yes, Janet, but you'll notice that not one media outlet paid a bit of attention to it. There's a great reason why they didn't.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    That is great Dave that they did not pay attention to it. I'll be looking forward to seeing you in court and your next article. Actually I don't like to watch the hearing, I love to read your articles that you write, it's just like being there.
    Have a great day!

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterJanet

    Neither did the court, Janet. Anything that's mailed to the judge/court must be logged and filed. I guarantee that letter was filed right next to the one Joy Wray wrote.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

    That is true Dave, the court does not have the time for that nonsense. They
    are busy with other important things.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterJanet

    "Important things" is the key, Janet. That letter is unimportant and so out of touch , it's pathetic. It's become an inside joke and all I can say is thanks for the free publicity. Dumbasses. Be careful what you wish for.

    October 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterDave Knechel

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